Loving your body can be a difficult task, even when everyone says it is so easy. I know that for a fact. Summer is approaching fast, and you know you will be at the beach accidentally comparing your body to the girl next to you. So, how do you stop comparing? Here is what I would teach my younger self about loving your body every step of the way.

Body positivity is nothing new, but it is something that I feel needs to be brought up every summer when we are all most exposed.

A Danish youth magazine recently conducted a study of 1,000 participants in the age of 12-16 about body shaming. The study showed that three out of four girls would change something about their body if they could while a third of the participants saw this as a reason to stay away from the beach during the summer.

This can easily be related to the fact that the number of depression and committed suicide cases among youngster has been rising through the years. I do not even feel surprised because I know I would feel the same way about my body in that age.

I love social media because of the ability to inspire, share and stay connected to the rest of the world. Though I feel sick when I think about the girls that are just a couple of years younger than me, who have no choice but to grow up with social media by their side.

Social media has a way of twisting things to make them seem instant and beautiful, which is fantastic as a creative outlet and marketing tool. But during the teenage period in our lives when we are so vulnerable, it can easily seem as if models and influencers around the world have these wonderful lives and amazing bodies, when in reality there is so much (unflattering) work behind it.

Here are some lessons I would give my younger self about body image, and loving your body every step of the way.

Know that it is just a body and that everyone has imperfections

Think of your body as a remedy, instead of a doomed state that you were born into. Your body gives you the ability to move, run and jump meaning that we should care for our bodies as much as we can throughout our lives.

Care for your body by giving it food as fuel, sleep to regain strength, and move to get stronger by each day. View your body as your child. How would you care for your child, and what would you feed it?

Remember that every body has its imperfections, even though you might not see them at first.

Be grateful for all of it because someone will find what you hate most about your body beautiful

Whether it is the freckles that magically appear during the summer or a crooked toe that you have, do not be embarrassed about it. A scar tells a story, and all ‘imperfections’ are beautiful in one way or another because that is what makes you, you.

I am flat chested. I have had big thighs all my life. I have struggled with impurities and bacne. I am petite meaning that I will never get a career as a runway model.

These are my perfect imperfections. I have learned to accept it all, and I am just grateful I have been lucky enough so far to have avoided illnesses and diseases. Our well-beings are more important than our psychical appearance after all.

Remember that your confidence and a smile is always an added value to your look

We all know those overly confident people that just shines up the whole room. They may be annoying and loud at times, but we all envy the way they stand and talk like they are the A-list star at the party.

Confident people have one thing in common. They have accepted who they are and what they stand for. You have to believe you have a beautiful body in order to gain that beautiful body and posture.

Lastly, a smile never hurt anybody. We have all heard this before, but it is true. Even faking a smile will trick your brain into thinking positive thoughts, plus you will appear more approachable toward the people around you.

What do you hate, and at the same time love, about your body?
  • LallahLand

    I think you’re gorgeous! It’s always good to hear that you are not alone in struggling with loving your body. Especially from someone you think is beautiful.

    • You’re a doll! I think everyone has their struggles at one point or another. Some people are just really good at hiding what they don’t like about their body, or even embracing it! ?

  • Alison

    I don’t think even a person with a perfect body feels okay about every part of their body. I just think we should all adopt your attitude and love the body we have!

  • Amy Scott

    Great message to send, unfortunately as you said young girls (and boys) are heavily influenced by the media and social media is more about highlighting and shaming these days than spreading positive messages.

    • I know! ? A lot of people feel that way, and it breaks my heart. Social media can be such a positive and powerful tool to help inspire and share creativity, but it is often misused/misunderstood.
      I totally get why young girls especially feel the pressure to look a certain way. I guess they should just know how much energy and time bloggers and other influencers put into social media (because of course we do – it’s our job!).
      We might even have come to a time where this should be taught in school. Even though it might sound silly, it could possibly prevent low self-esteem for many girls out there. I know I struggled from that when I was younger and back then we only had Facebook.

  • Rashmi & Chalukya

    Cant agree more Juliana. More than the outer look our health is more important. I too have been swayed by all this in my younger age but have now learnt tht everyone is beautiful in their own way ?

    • That’s right! It truly is something you learn as the years go by. It’s one of the best things about growing up really! Looks do not matter as much as we think it does.

  • I do think people should embrace their body types. Everyone is different and that’s okay!

  • Beautiful sentiments because its true, our scars, our imperfections and our battle wounds are what make us beautiful. I admit that social media can make me feel inferior because I often see myself as having unconventional looks and growing up wanted to be blonde and blue eyed.

  • I wish I would love my body a little bit more. This constant pressure to be thin and shiny drives me crazy. At the end we are what we are and that is what makes as unique and beautiful.

  • Great post and t’s so true about social media and seeing all those picture perfect posts. It’s especially more stress for teenagers and it gives an impression that everyone else is having “wonderful lives and amazing bodies”. Confidence in one’s own body is essential and yes smile never hurts !!

  • These are really great tips and these photos are gorgeous! I can’t believe that three quarters of the young people they interviewed would change something about themselves. They are far too young to be worried about things like that!

  • tp keane

    such great tips and insight. I wish I could go back in time and tell my younger self to find a sport I love, not just one I like. Something that will stay with me through adulthood.

  • Ana Ojha

    Very empowering post! The problem with young girls and women’s are they love others body rather than loving their own. Most of us are fascinated by plastic surgery and wants to look as good as super models flashing on the cover pages of magazines. However external beauty dies and decays in sometime. What left is internal beauty which is priceless!

  • The Practical Saver

    This is exactly the kind of post that many girls should read. Our society has come in to a point where superficiality is the norm. Girls or even boys have to learn to love their body. – Allan Liwanag

  • What a great read! A smile is the best thing you can have. Your photos are just amazing. I love black and whites.

  • Absolutely fantastic post on body positivity! Here is to loving our imperfections and loving ourselves more.